Thought of the Day
Thought of the Day
When we don't recieve sufficient quality and quantity of love during our childhood, we seek it all our life. We will always feel an emotional defficiency, a longing an insecurity that we will try to fill up. To feel completely loved as a child , three conditions must
exist -
1. Our parents must love themselves, if they does not likes themselves they have little love to their childrens.
2. Parent must love each other . The kindest thing that a man can do for his childrens is to love their mother and the reverse is also true.
3. Parent must love their children. Many parents do not love their childrens because they did not have the time or because of conflicts and problems in houshold.
the important thing to know is that whether the parents loved you are not, you are still a valuable and worthwhile person. Most adults hold the lack of love in their childhood against their parents . the message that for some reason mother and father criticiseed them because they know their children better and it must be because of some difficiency. This can be called "guilt".
The menifestation of guilt leads to feeling of inferiority, inadequacy and undeservingness. If good things happens, he feels uncomfotable. Another menifestation of guilt is self criticism and self defeating behaviour. You can hear people say, "I am not good". I am terrible with numbers. " I can never improve". by saying these negative things again and again, they internalize it and make it a reality. Speak with confidance and conviction. Say - "I will, I want to" and then you are on the road to HAPPINESS.
the important thing to know is that whether the parents loved you are not, you are still a valuable and worthwhile person. Most adults hold the lack of love in their childhood against their parents . the message that for some reason mother and father criticiseed them because they know their children better and it must be because of some difficiency. This can be called "guilt".
The menifestation of guilt leads to feeling of inferiority, inadequacy and undeservingness. If good things happens, he feels uncomfotable. Another menifestation of guilt is self criticism and self defeating behaviour. You can hear people say, "I am not good". I am terrible with numbers. " I can never improve". by saying these negative things again and again, they internalize it and make it a reality. Speak with confidance and conviction. Say - "I will, I want to" and then you are on the road to HAPPINESS.
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